How do communicate effectively with others?

Effective communication is the foundation on which happy relationships are built. Without good communication, partners are more likely to have misunderstandings, arguments and even break-ups. Strong communication builds trust, understanding and helps each partner feel loved and appreciated in a relationship. The good news for those of us who want to improve our relationships is that communication skills are learned, so you can follow some basic tips to practice how to communicate effectively with others, and put yourself on the road to relationship bliss.

IMPROVE YOUR COMMUNICATION!

STEP 1

Make communication a priority. Set aside time to talk with your partner every day, whether it's in person, by phone or video chat. Having a time to touch base with each other is important because it allows you both to talk about your feelings and concerns as they arise so they don't build up and become overwhelming.

STEP 2

Listen to your lover. Practice active listening skills by tuning in to what your partner is saying, asking questions and avoiding interrupting. It's important for each person to feel heard in a relationship, and listening will help you better understand your partner's point of view.

STEP 3

Express your feelings and thoughts. You will feel happier and more fulfilled in the relationship when you feel listened to and cared for, and the only way to let your partner know what you want and need is to tell her. Use "I" statements such as "I feel" and "I would like" and avoid using accusatory or critical statements. On the other hand, do not apologize for your point of view--just calmly state it.

STEP 4

Offer praise. Be positive and encouraging, and the other person will feel safe and loved and be more likely to open up to you in the future. No one wants to feel unappreciated or taken for granted, and offering compliments is a great way to show your appreciation.

STEP 5

Be open-minded. Try to avoid making judgments about the other person's appearance, and if he does something you disagree with, be clear that you disagree with the action not the whole person. Try to see things from your lover's perspective and it will help you be more open-minded.

STEP 6

Be respectful, even when arguing. Avoid name-calling, blaming, accusing and being too critical. When you are upset, take some time to collect your thoughts and feelings before you speak, or you could end up saying something that will hurt your partner and weaken the relationship.